Today I wanted to write about something that is so important but often so overlooked once you become parents- Dating your spouse.
My husband and I recently decided we really need to make more of an effort to spend some time together, without the kids. We desperately needed it and more importantly our marriage needed it. Its not selfish to want to spend time away from your children and focus on your spouse.We live such fast paced lives, juggling careers, home life and kids, where does our marriage fit in? Its so easy to forget that we need to look after our marriage just as we need to look after our kids, after all, Happiness isn’t something that happens, its something that you make.
Most of us live increasingly busy lives and often the time effort required to successfully nurture a relationship can be forgotten, this is where couples can grow apart. Time is a precious commodity and when you willingly decide that you want to spend time alone with each other, you are saying “you are worthy of my time” During our busy lives where raising kids takes center stage, most of us stops actively pursuing our spouses. I guess its kind of the mentality that we got them. What more do we need to do?
Here are 5 reason Why you should DATE your husband/wife
1.You need to make your spouse a priority
When you date your spouse you are letting them know you are interested in them and that you are attracted to them. You want to get back to those feelings you had when you first started dating, the butterflies , the anticipation and the excitement of spending time with your favorite person in the world. I personally get so caught up in being a MOMMY that I forget I am a wife too and that although those leggings and hoodies are comfy, I enjoy getting dressed up for my husband.
2. It sets a good example for your children
Dating your spouse and spending quality time with one another displays to your children what a healthy marriage and loving relationship should look like.
3. Dating Helps build intimacy
When you spend time re-conneting with your spouse and spending time doing things with each other as your main priority , being spontaneous, laughing and being physically close with one another, it leads to an increased attraction which will lead to physical and emotional intimacy.
4. You learn new things about each other
Just because you are married doesn’t mean you know everything there is to know about your spouse. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and I still constantly learn new things about him and his goals and dreams for our future.
5. You get to try new things
Make date night fun and exciting by doing something that you have never done before. Create a date night bucket list and schedule them throughout the year. This way you create new memories with each other and you can both choose activities that you’ve wanted to do.
So go out and plan a date night and be reminded why you fell in love in the first place! Also let me know what are your favorite date night activities.
“Always strive to give your spouse the very best of yourself, not what’s left over after you have given your best to everyone else” – Dave Willis